Friday, Feb 2 2012, a very dear friend passed away. Ying was a dear friend taken so suddenly and cruelly that I am having a hard time accepting the fact that I’ll never hear her laugh, or benefit from her non biased advice again.
I remember catching up with Ying a few months ago for lunch. She told me that she had cancer and that her treatments were done. She looked so frail and tired, but the same playful Ying spark was alive and well in her eyes, she told me she was ok and that I shouldn’t worry and everything was good. I took her for what she gave me and was grateful to have her back. So it came as a serious surprise when I got a call Thursday morning that Ying was in hospice and that she had been there for the past 5 days and that she may not make it through the weekend. I am naive, I realized after the fact that she had told me that she was finished with her treatments not because they worked, but because she wasn’t getting anywhere with them, and I just kept eating my noodles like she was invincible.
I’ve lost a few friends when I was younger, through car accidents, booze & drugs as well as suicide, but I saw those coming. The demons my friends wrestled with were dealt with when they passed. Ying wrestled with and defeated hers months before she passed, a true testament to her strength and determination, something I will remember if/when I have the need.
Rest In Peace Ying, you did enough that those of us that were lucky enough to know you will never forget the times we spent together. You continue to live on as strongly in our hearts and memories as you did in life.
xoxo
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